You have just had the time of your life living abroad, but you are now back home. However, you start to realise that things have changed, or rather you have changed. It’s quite clear that life at home won’t be the same again.
This is me right now and the struggle is real. It’s strange hearing English all the time and not a mix of languages. It’s weird not to be anonymous in a foreign city, but to be recognised in my hometown. Since I have been back I have noticed things in a new light and it’s not just me, but my friends who have also moved back to their hometown.
You have changed for the better.
It doesn’t matter how far you move from your hometown, you will grow and change in one way or another. When you are in new surroundings it gives you the chance to meet new people and to try new hobbies/pastimes and food. These all contribute to you changing and growing as a person. I only realised this once I moved back home. I can see that I approach things differently and I am more open to new ideas and possibilities. Accept that amazing new change with open arms, you are awesome and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
You have become a little selfish.
Maybe you don’t want to admit it,but you’re selfish, I’m selfish. Let’s face it the decision to move abroad in the first place was selfish, because it was for you. You only thought about you in that moment, you never thought about the people you were leaving behind, but honestly it was the right decision. It doesn’t matter whether it was a good or bad experience you learned from it and it taught you about yourself. Sometimes you need to be selfish and do what’s best for you.
You don’t fit in anymore.
Once you are home you soon realise that people don’t really want to hear about that time you accidentally told people that you were pregnant instead of saying you were embarrassed. Those false friends can be tricky at times and so can old friends (see what I did there?). Your stories are about adventures and the unknown, their stories are about promotions, houses, engagements, marriage and babies. You don’t fit in with your old friends anymore, so cue lots of Skype calls to your friends in far-flung corners of the world because they get you. I would rather talk to someone who listens to my stories, because friendships aren’t supposed to be a one way street. Quite frankly I don’t want to listen to your stories about DIY projects to fix your house or that your baby spat her/his food up on you, unless you listen to my stories of adventure and misadventure. Sorry.
You have outgrown some people and they don’t realise it.
It’s sad when you realise this. People that you once were so close with and had so much in common haven’t changed or they have a ‘real life’ and your goals are different. You realise that you can’t talk about things that you want to, but the problem is that they don’t see it. They think everything is the same as it always was, but you aren’t the same and you could possibly regress back to your old self and lose the new improved you.
You realise that you haven’t missed much, because it takes about 20 minutes to catch up on the gossip.
They care about their world and what people are up to around them. You have been gone a year and it took about 20 minutes to catch up. So five people from high school have engaged and two are pregnant, good for them, but we aren’t friends with them so it isn’t need to know information for me. Whilst engagements, marriages and pregnancies are cause for celebration I don’t need our catchup to be about someone who spoke to me five times during high school.
Do/did you feel the same? Do you have anything to add? Write in the comments below.